The above article is an update. Her mother went to appeal to keep her out of the psychiatric ward and lost. She will be institutionalized because of her expression of her gender. She will be held until she conforms to male gender and then released to foster care, not her mother who was supporting her.
Please, if you haven’t signed the petition, sign it, reblog it, ask your friends to sign it. We’ve managed to get 40K signatures for a pageant model, we’ve only gotten 11K for a little girl about to have her life ruined. Lets get on the ball and spread the word.
Like it or not, fat people are at war. I’m not hyperbolizing or dramatizing. If you don’t believe me, Google “War on obesity”. Tonight HBO premiered its new documentary series “The Weight of a Nation”. On the premiere page it says “Obesity in America has reached a catastrophic level. Almost every aspect of our lives is threatened. The first step toward ending the damage is learning how to fight back.”
I spend a lot of my time politely asking people to please stop oppressing me. I don’t apologize for that, nor do I begrudge it – it’s proven to be a very effective way to create change and I think that people deserve to be given the benefit of the doubt and the support they need to shift their thinking, and it’s a reasonably pleasant form of activism. I will continue to do it.
But I also have to acknowledge that there is a war being waged against me because of how I look, by people who have been given every opportunity to know better. In concert with HBO’s documentary, I received a Tweet letting me know that Kaiser Permanente is launching the “most aggressive anti-obesity campaign in history.”
They know that there are healthy fat people and unhealthy thin people. They know that not a shred of research shows that any method of weight loss works in the long term. They know that research shows us that we could vastly increase health by providing access to healthy foods, safe movement options, and affordable/free evidence based health care. Nobody is obligated to be healthy or thin; however, I wonder how many people would make different choices if they knew they just need 30 minutes of moderate movement 5 days a week? If they knew that people who choose simple healthy habits have very similar health outcomes regardless of weight. What would people choose if they knew they could abandon the goal of weight loss completely and they could still pursue health. America could be a successful role model for giving people access to health, but instead they are choosing to be a failed role model for thinness - waging war on people based on their appearance for tremendous profit and actively blaming the casualties of the war for the war’s massive failures.
Let’s be clear - they are pathologizing a body size. It doesn’t matter if they say that we need to seek solutions environmentally instead of at the individual level, or if they say that we should have “compassion” for fat people – they are still telling people that is is not ok to exist in fat bodies and that they should see fat bodies as a threat to America. There are tons of thin people who eat unhealthy foods and are sedentary (which is completely their right), but as far as the government is concerned, as long as you are thin you’re part of the “solution,” feel free to do whatever you want. They want people to look at me (and you, if you’re fat) and think “She is part of a catastrophe. She is threatening almost every aspect of our lives. The first step toward ending the damage is learning how to fight back against her.”
I say that if they want a war, I will damn well give them one.
“Plenty of oppressive bullshit goes down under the guise of nice. Every day, nice, caring, friendly people try to take our bodily autonomy away from us (women, queers, trans people, nonbinaries, fat people, POC…you name it, they just don’t think we know what’s good for us!). These people would hold a door for us if they saw us coming. Our enemies are not only the people holding ‘Fags Die God Laughs’ signs, they are the nice people who just feel like marriage should be between a man and a woman, no offense, it’s just how they feel! We once got a very nice comment on this site that we decided we could not publish because its content was ‘But how can I respect women when they dress like – sorry to say it, pardon my language – sluts?’. This is vile, disgusting misogyny and no amount of sugar coating and politeness can make it okay. Similarly, most of the people who run ex-gay therapy clinics are actually very nice and polite! They just want to save you! Nicely! Clearly, niceness means FUCK ALL.”—
“Television and magazines are often regarded as factors that influence girls to be thinner that leads to young girls to many eating disorders. There are hundreds of studies that draw conclusions between media like television and magazines and poor self-esteem or body image.
Television makes children, especially white boys, believe that they can achieve things easily whereas black kids are often told that they may not achieve much in life.
‘Young black boys are getting the opposite message: that there is not lots of good things that you can aspire to. If we think about those kinds of messages, that’s what’s responsible for the impact,’ Nicole Martins said.”
I don’t usually ask for help, but this time I don’t have any choice. Two weeks ago, my SO’s father killed himself, suddenly and unexpectedly and, even now, for no reason any of us can figure out. I’ve just spent those two weeks in New Jersey trying to help them sort out the legal and financial affairs, and we’re both completely shellshocked and devastated here on top of all the procedural crap. Here’s the rundown of financial facts:
-There’s no life insurance -The house is under water and on a reverse mortgage (more on this further down) -The 401K’s have all been drained -$10,000 in back taxes owed -There is no money, at all
On top of this, his widow has been mentally deteriorating for years now and can neither live alone nor can live with any of her children, none of whom have the space or are there all day to provide her the care she needs. The trauma of this event—she was there when it happened, in the house, trying to stop him—has accelerated her decline dramatically and she needs professional care. However, in most states her social security income is both woefully inadequate to pay for care and too high to qualify her for aid, because hey, I guess in the good ol’ USA old ladies with dementia are also supposed to pull themselves up by their bootstraps, idek. I would be more furious if I had the energy for it.
Additionally, if the house sells for less than its appraised value—which it will, because who the hell wants to live in a house where something like this happened—she loses progressively more months of medicaid eligibility depending on how far under it sells for.
And even if she somehow kept her medicaid eligibility AND they were willing to cover her care—which they probably aren’t—that ‘care’ would amount to them sticking her in a state-run institution, which is very close to being a prison. The only way out of this is to spend a lot of money now to get her situated somewhere nice, let the money run out, and bank on the government being reluctant to uproot and move her. But spending a lot of money requires having a lot of money, which we don’t.
Add to this the fact that legally in NJ this kind of event requires sanctioned crime scene cleanup which charged such a grotesque amount of money I can’t even type it out, and the fact that in order to keep the SO’s mom from completely losing everything she had left I and the SO had to take on her two sick cats, both of which are chronically ill and one of which has diabetes, and build an outbuilding to house them in which runs somewhere around $5000 all told, and the SO’s incoming MRI bill for unrelated medical problems on our end, and the fact that I had to spend almost my entire savings on last minute plane tickets to fly us out there when it was all I had to live off of for the next six months… and we are pretty fucking squarely screwed—me, the SO, his brother and his wife, their mom, the cats, everyone.
It is the perfect storm of misery and horrible life choices, and I need help, we need help. We need money to pay their bills, to pay the mortgage long enough to sell the house, to pay the backtaxes, to pay the ripoff cleanup people. We need money to guarantee their mother’s care. We need money to pay our own medical bills, to pay for the cats’ housing and bills, and I need money to fucking eat.
I know times are rough all around, and I know tragedies like this are happening every fucking day, but if you can help by donating even a tiny amount, I am swallowing my pride and asking. My paypal is firstname.lastname@example.org. If you can’t, then if you could just pass this along I would really appreciate it. I really appreciate anyone even just reading this all the way to the end.
Thank you all.
eth is amazingly good people, a good friend and source of inspiration and support both within fandom and without. This whole shit storm is category fucking-awful, and if you’re able to offer support or assistance in any way I hope you will, even if it’s just to pass the word along.
First, go grab some headphones. The best ones you’ve got. If the best ones you’ve got are these suckers (or something similar), you should really go buy new ones, but use the best you’ve got for right now.
Take a break from whatever you’re doing for 2 minutes and listen, but just listen to the whole thing, even if you have to multi-task.
Headphones on? Ok. Good.
Now, press play.
“Upular (3D Audio Version)” - Pogo
I love these things
THE MUSIC IS TRAVELING THROUGH YOUR HEAD!! HOLY CRAP THAT WAS TRIPPY… if i was on drugs… this would be amazing… but you really need headphones
OMG. MIND = BLOWN. FUCK THIS SHIT. WOW. WHAT JUST HAPPENED.
THIS IS NOT NORMAL WHAT THE FUCKING SHJHAHGAFG
good song though
ALWAYS REBLOG! :D
I LOVE THIS SO MUCH CAUSE IT TICKLES ME XD
ITS BACK ON MY DASH YOU GUUUYYYSSS!!!! OMFG!! LISTEN TO IT!
“Female toplessness is legal in a lot of places in the US (although not where I live), and I’d be meeting the letter of the law with a couple of Band-aids. But I have a gut feeling that if I go anywhere that there are people—and particularly anywhere there are children—nobody’s going to be too happy about my Band-aids. The enforcement is social; women just don’t go around topless in the US.
It bothers me because it’s unequal, but it also bothers me in its implications: that my body is inherently sexual, and a man’s body isn’t. It feels like men are being viewed through the first-person lens of “it’s nice to feel the sun on my skin, and I don’t mean anything by it” and women are being viewed through the distinctly third-person lens of “it’s inappropriate for me, a heterosexual man, to see her sexy parts.” It ignores the experiences of people who are turned on by male chests and somehow manage to contain themselves when they see one.”—
I have no desire to go topless anywhere, but I thought this made good points about perspective, and about how female [identified?] bodies are considered inherently sexual even when nothing sexual is going on or implied.